As a shadchan with over two decades of experience, I am often inundated with shidduch resumes, texts, and calls from people needing help. I am minimizing the number of singles I work with to prioritize more time and personalized attention to those who are more committed to working with me on a structured path to marriage.
I am not the shadchan for everyone. Perhaps we have differences in personalities or style, maybe you are not looking for a collaborative relationship with a matchmaker, or you don’t like my process. I am not looking to expand my database with profiles of people I don’t get to know well just to have higher numbers. I have about 2,000 eligible singles in my database at this time, and I’m looking to help them get married this year. To better determine if we should work together, before you register for my services, I urge you to sign up for my weekly email and read my blog to learn more about my approach.
Not all shadchanim are the same. Experience matters.
Many people call themselves shadchanim. They join shidduch chats and try to set people up. The most successful way of making shidduchim today is not websites or events, it is through a third party – when a friend, neighbor, colleague, or relative sets you up. But just because someone makes a shidduch does not make them a professional shadchan, any more than I can write a Facebook post but that doesn’t make me a professional social media marketer. Or I can diagnose a paper cut and that doesn’t make me a doctor.
A qualified shadchan will be able to differentiate between those who are marriage minded and those who say they are, but aren’t serious. A professional matchmaker will have a large database of singles, spend time researching and reviewing the best potential ideas for you, and present a thoughtful suggestion with an explanation of why someone is a good fit. A good shadchan will also serve as a coach and help you navigate throughout the process; you should not need a dating coach if you are working with a credible and experienced matchmaker.
Contact me to work together if you:
- Are serious about getting married and willing to invest time and effort to work with a matchmaker.
- Are not expecting a matchmaker to send a bunch of photos or random shidduch resumes so you can pick the one you like best.
- Understand that it is about quality more than quantity, and you’d rather have fewer good suggestions than many bad ones.
- Trust your shadchan and share important personal information, particularly about health, that could impact a shidduch.
- Are realistic about your options and agreeable to a proper dating process.
MATCHMAKING SERVICES – REGISTRATION FEES
Upon submitting your profile through the below form, you will get a confirmation email with a link to sign up for a specific plan. The registration fees are given to needy brides (hachnasat kallah) and most Rabbis allow you to use ma’aser/charity funds for this.
Students in yeshiva or seminary or those with financial hardships can request the free Bronze or Silver Plan. Others who do not want to pay can submit their profile and photo to be in the database for consideration, but will not get the pro-active efforts that paying members do.
Registering for the Global Jewish Connections database will enter your profile in the database, enabling you to be considered for our priority members. The Bronze Plan, at a fee of $25, includes a personal interview with Dr. Chevy Weiss, so she can learn more about you and your matchmaking needs. We will keep you in mind for potential matchets, but this level plan does not guarantee you the top priority, pro-active matchmaking efforts.
Registering for the Silver Plan provides you with our dedicated, ongoing efforts on your behalf, from suggesting matches to coaching. The one-time sign-up fee of $100 ensures that we explore ideas and network with other matchmakers to set-up marriage-minded men and women. We learn about your personality, hashkafa, goals, and preferences in life and in your potential spouse. We spend time one-on-one with you, to help you meet people beyond your current network.
The Gold level offers very personal attention and extensive efforts to help you. We only accept five Gold clients at any time. For a fee of $500, the three-month membership will ensure that you get precedented attention and efforts. We will make recommendations and introductions, providing ongoing coaching and guidance, and help you meet appropriate and ideal matches. We value your time and serious interest in getting married, and recognize that you want more individualized and personalized attention.
We only allow three Diamond clients at a time to be registered for this exclusive program, to ensure their greatest opportunity for success. For a fee of $1000 for a six-month membership, you can be one of our top three priority clients. On your behalf, we offer exhaustive efforts, including conducting a national and international search, scouring databases and networking with other matchmakers, offering ongoing coaching sessions and advice, and providing other efforts to help you successfully advance in the dating process. Note: This plan can be frozen up to two times, for one or two weeks each time, based on notification in writing at least 24 hours in advance. This will help protect your investment with us if you are going on vacation or have met someone through another matchmaker.
Writing a shidduch resume – If you need help writing a shidduch resume, I can collaborate with you to produce a professional resume. Fee: $25. Email firstname.lastname@example.org to schedule a call to discuss this.
Coaching/Advising: Need coaching or dating advice, perhaps even for a relationship that another shadchan initiated? Fee: Individual Zoom sessions at $175 for 60 minutes or buy a package of four for $500. Fill in the below or email email@example.com to discuss this.
Facilitation: Often singles may meet someone on their own or, for various reasons, have someone to date but not a shadchan or facilitator to act as a go-between. I do not charge any up-front fees to facilitate in matches suggested by others or made on your own, but I do require 2/3 of the shadchanus fee, as per Rabbinic recommendation.