According to the authors of a 2020 study, there exists a phenomenon called the “rejecting mindset”, in which the perception of having unlimited options drives more negativity toward other singles and the dating process. The proliferation of dating websites and apps today, and the endless singles events and those shidduch chats in which hundreds of “resumes”…
Before you were born, Hashem picked out your bashert. Before you went to this seminary or that yeshiva. Before you wore glasses or had a stutter. Before you grew too tall or not tall enough. Before you gained weight or had learning difficulties. Before your parents divorced or you got that useless college degree. Before…
I’m not sure who is more frustrated by the dating process these days – singles or matchmakers. A shadchan recently told me he hasn’t made a shidduch in a full year. Some new singles who reached out to me told me they haven’t had a good date in 3 months; others haven’t had ANY dates…
Part of S.M.A.R.T. dating is to fully believe that Hashem makes shidduchim and gives every person the opportunity to meet their bashert, but you have the choice to reject it. In this week’s parshas, Chayei Sara, we learn that Avraham chose a shadchan to find a match for Yitzchak, and gave two instructions: not to…