With Rosh Hashana behind us, it’s a new year, and everyone gets to start anew with the dating process. I recommend that you buy a notebook to record your shidduch activities this year. Hopefully, you won’t need to use more than the first page or 2. But for those who are designated by Hashem to…
Welcome to our S.M.A.R.T. dating blog. The “S” stands for “serious” – are you serious about getting married. There’s a lot to say on this topic, and I want to start by sharing a story. Once upon a time, there were 3 sons renting apartments, each claiming to desperately wanted a home of his own.…
Welcome to the world of dating properly…dating for success! Many people struggle with dating because this is about embarking on a path for a life-long commitment, and it is challenging to start and build healthy relationships in today’s complex world. Whether you are getting ready to date for the first time or you’ve been dating…
Last week, as I relaxed in northern Israel on a family vacation, it was impossible to ignore the stunning scenery around me. Amid the serene beauty of Israel, with it’s Golan mountains, the Kinneret, and clear, unpolluted air, it was a most appropriate place to reflect on the role of beauty in shidduchim. I want…
There’s a joke that has gone around: When it comes to telling his age, he’s shy… About 10 years shy! One of the most common reasons a man or woman over the age of 35 reject a proposed match is due to age. And as they get older, they tend to be even more particular…
As I am working to organize and plan a great weekend retreat for singles in New Jersey in the Fall, I am doing a little less activity as a shadchan, although I still welcome singles to register with me by uploading their profile to www.TheShadchanit.com. Beyond that, there are two shidduch websites that I recommend…
I recently set up a couple – let’s call them Boaz and Rut. After the first date, Rut tells me, “Nice guy but I just don’t feel it.” This raises many questions: If you are over 27 and unmarried, when did you feel it…at a time when he felt it too? Clearly that never happened…
As a shadchan, I get frustrated when singles make it harder for me to help, such as when someone sends me their Linked In profile and tells me to pull info from there to set them up. Yes, it has happened. And it’s not much different than someone sending me a bad shidduch profile with…