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On Shabbos, I was reading a sefer by Rav Shimshon Dovid Pinchus, and he conveyed that the words of Elisha Hanavi, “This is not the road, neither is it the town,” teaches the importance not only to set a goal (reaching “the town”) but to also create a successful path to the goal (“the road”).…
DetailsWherever you fall on the religious spectrum of Judaism, we all approach Rosh Hashana with a focus on the three enduring themes of Elul: Teshuva, Tefilla, and Tzedaka. Teshuva is about deciding that you want to change. It’s not lip service—it’s a sincere desire to make a meaningful effort to get back on track. Teshuva is…
DetailsTisha B’av is not about refraining from eating for a day or sitting on a low stool. It’s a dedicated day to mourn, to pay attention to what happened on this day, to emotionally relate to the churban and other calamities, and to make it personal to each of us. It’s a hard day. How…
DetailsShidduch Lessons from Iran Our seuda last Friday night was interrupted by air raid sirens. The skies took a severe pounding, windows rattled, and loud booms announced incoming missiles above. The holy Shabbos prevented us from access to news and information so, unable to do anything but say Tehillim and remember that everything is in…
DetailsThis week’s parsha, Baha’aloscha, discusses Miriam’s tzara’as quarantine due to speaking lashon hara. It is a good time to get refreshed – click here to read Rabbi Yirmiyahu Kaganoff’s very interesting article about lashon hara in shidduchim. Remember, halachically, there is sometimes a difference between what information can be shared with (and by) a professional shadchan versus…
DetailsLag Ba’Omer Lesson in Shidduchim This week, we celebrate Lag Ba’omer, the day that ended the plague that killed 24,000 Torah scholars who were the students of Rabbi Akiva. They were punished for lacking respect for their fellow man. It wasn’t that they were mean to one another; rather, they didn’t recognize or honor the…
DetailsRecently, a mother called me about her daughter who needs a shidduch. After much praise about her daughter’s kindness, intelligence, domestic capabilities, and other positive attributes, she casually mentioned that her daughter is also blind. Therefore, she noted, they are willing to compromise and take someone with a small disability or minor illness. Such as what,…
DetailsThis tragedy of Aaron HaKohain’s sons in this Parshas Shemini, has a powerful and important shidduch message for singles and parents. One of the challenges that I have experienced as a shadchan is the ridiculous pickiness in the shidduch arena. Males and females are nixing people with amazing middos and yiras shamayim; instead, they over-scrutinize…
DetailsDecisions are hard to make. Have you ever stood in front of an open fridge filled with food and complained there was nothing to eat? And then you close the fridge and walk away without actually taking any food because you don’t know what you want to eat. Or even if you want to eat.…
DetailsDoes Age Matter in Dating? Perhaps you have heard of the holy Baal Shem Tov, the father of the Chassidus movement. Had his parents been living in our generation, the Baal Shem Tov may never have been born. His parents had a significant age gap and his elderly father passed away when the Baal Shem…
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