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The Law of Attraction: Shidduch Lessons from Bnei Yisrael’s Travels in the Midbar It’s easy to associate shidduchim with this week’s parsha because of Kriyas Yam Suf. Chazal famously compare finding a spouse to the splitting of the sea. But there is another theme in this parsha that feels especially relevant to today’s dating world,…
DetailsPart 2: Why Dating Has Become So Much Harder for Orthodox Jews — and What We Can Do About It Last week, I presented some thoughts about why dating is much harder today than in previous generations, and I want to add a little more to the painful question: Why does dating feel harder than…
DetailsAs a shadchan of more than 20 years, I have seen that the dating arena is more challenging today than for previous generations, and I hear this echoed by singles as well. It’s not our imagination. Today, it is harder to secure a marriage-minded relationship and get to the chuppah, evidenced in emerging research and…
DetailsIn Parshas Shemos, Batya saw a baby in a basket in the river and, despite the distance, she stretched out her arm to grab hold of it. Rationally, she knew that it was too far for her to reach, but she had good intentions and made the effort. Hashem extended her arm miraculously, so she…
DetailsThis week’s parsha, Vayechi, seems to be about the end. Not just because it’s the last book in Sefer Bereishis, but because it focuses on the end of Yaakov’s life. The parsha is all about Yaakov’s dying and death, yet it is called “Vayechi”, which means “and he lived”, to show that when it seems…
DetailsOn Chanukah, we often focus on the miracle of the one sealed flask bearing the holy seal that contained enough oil for one day, extending to last for eight days, the time needed to make more holy oil. But the real takeaway for us should be not that they FOUND one flask of oil, but…
Details“There’s a method to the madness.” I don’t remember much else from learning Shakespeare’s Hamlet back in high school except for that line. Which is the best way to sum up the process of successful shadchanim. When choosing two or three matchmakers to build a trusting relationship with, it is essential that you understand the…
DetailsThis week’s parsha, Vayeira, discusses Sara and Avraham, who, far into their elderly years, learn that they will miraculously have a child. Until then, they spent their time on avodas Hashem, as we have seen more recently in the last century by other leaders who did not merit to have children, such as the Lubavitcher…
DetailsDecluttering for the Soul: Tishrei Reflections on Shidduchim I spent the past two days helping someone declutter their home, throwing out grocery receipts from 17 years ago, chargers from extinct, 20-year-old cell phones, and other things that may have been important at one point in time but today were taking up valuable space that could…
DetailsEveryone has their own story. In over two decades as a shadchan, I’ve heard thousands of them, and come to deeply admire the individuals who overcame unexpected and unwelcome challenges through personal and spiritual growth. But their ability to harness strengths to overcome challenges are not appreciated by all. Some of the most quality people…
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