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Guide to Writing a Great Shidduch Resume

As many of you know, I am not a fan of shidduch resumes. I believe the old system of matchmaking worked better, when each shadchan got to know the single they were setting up in a personal way, not based on a piece of paper. Hashem made your shidduch 40 days before you were born,…

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Beauty in Shidduchim

DID YOU KNOW THAT HASHEM SENT COSMETICS TO THE WOMEN IN THE MIDBAR? AND EZRA HASOFER REQUIRED IT TO BE SOLD IN VILLAGES SO WOMEN COULD BEAUTIFY THEMSELVES? READ ON TO LEARN MORE! Yes, this really happened this week. A divorced man in his 50s told me he needs to marry someone 10 years younger…

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What is Today’s Shidduch Crisis?

Today we don’t have the shidduch crisis of women in the time of Esther Hamalka who, once called to the palace of Achashveirosh, could not marry anyone else, leaving Jewish men without potential wives. Nor do we have the crisis of the Cantonists, the Jewish boys called up to the Russian army who served 25…

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The Four Questions… and It’s Not Even Pesach

When we mention the FOUR QUESTIONS in any Jewish context, most assume it has to do with Pesach’s Mah Nishtana. But the FOUR SHIDDUCH QUESTIONS are applicable for the entire year. One of the most frequently asked questions of me, by parents and singles alike, is “What should I be asking when I’m checking someone…

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Shidduch lessons from Driver’s Ed

Before you were born, Hashem picked out your bashert. Before you went to this seminary or that yeshiva. Before you wore glasses or had a stutter. Before you grew too tall or not tall enough. Before you gained weight or had learning difficulties. Before your parents divorced or you got that useless college degree. Before…

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The Greatest Lie

I learned a new term this week: Creepfest. A perfect term that summarizes what so many singles events have become. A Creepfest often results when the intentions are good, but the actions are wrong. For example, the audience’s age range is too broad, so women in their 20s and 30s are spending an entire Shabbaton…

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3 Reasons NOT to Use a Shadchan

I’m not sure who is more frustrated by the dating process these days – singles or matchmakers. A shadchan recently told me he hasn’t made a shidduch in a full year. Some new singles who reached out to me told me they haven’t had a good date in 3 months; others haven’t had ANY dates…

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Important fertility and age news

I don’t score points with many singles for being so brutally honest, but being a shadchan is not a popularity contest. The below scientific information is being shared not to deter women from dating older men (because you should marry the right person, regardless of age), but because it is critical so raise an important…

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Hollywood endings

Instead of continuing on the thread I started in last week’s blog, I’m going to touch on something I’ve mentioned in the past, but worthwhile bringing up again because of its timely relevance to Parshas Bereishis. There’s a famous film, Pretty Woman, about two people from very different social worlds, who come together for what…

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