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Welcome to my GPS (Gevaldig, Professional Shadchan) services on your dating journey. This blog will help guide you on a path to dating. Your feedback is welcome!

Shidduch lessons from Driver’s Ed

Before you were born, Hashem picked out your bashert. Before you went to this seminary or that yeshiva. Before you wore glasses or had a stutter. Before you grew too tall or not tall enough. Before you gained weight or had learning difficulties. Before your parents divorced or you got that useless college degree. Before…

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The Greatest Lie

I learned a new term this week: Creepfest. A perfect term that summarizes what so many singles events have become. A Creepfest often results when the intentions are good, but the actions are wrong. For example, the audience’s age range is too broad, so women in their 20s and 30s are spending an entire Shabbaton…

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3 Reasons NOT to Use a Shadchan

I’m not sure who is more frustrated by the dating process these days – singles or matchmakers. A shadchan recently told me he hasn’t made a shidduch in a full year. Some new singles who reached out to me told me they haven’t had a good date in 3 months; others haven’t had ANY dates…

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Important fertility and age news

I don’t score points with many singles for being so brutally honest, but being a shadchan is not a popularity contest. The below scientific information is being shared not to deter women from dating older men (because you should marry the right person, regardless of age), but because it is critical so raise an important…

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Hollywood endings

Instead of continuing on the thread I started in last week’s blog, I’m going to touch on something I’ve mentioned in the past, but worthwhile bringing up again because of its timely relevance to Parshas Bereishis. There’s a famous film, Pretty Woman, about two people from very different social worlds, who come together for what…

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Start anew: Re-boot your dating

With Rosh Hashana behind us, it’s a new year, and everyone gets to start anew with the dating process. I recommend that you buy a notebook to record your shidduch activities this year. Hopefully, you won’t need to use more than the first page or 2. But for those who are designated by Hashem to…

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Are you really ready to date?

Welcome to our S.M.A.R.T. dating blog. The “S” stands for “serious” – are you serious about getting married. There’s a lot to say on this topic, and I want to start by sharing a story. Once upon a time, there were 3 sons renting apartments, each claiming to desperately wanted a home of his own.…

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S.M.A.R.T. Dating

Welcome to the world of dating properly…dating for success! Many people struggle with dating because this is about embarking on a path for a life-long commitment, and it is challenging to start and build healthy relationships in today’s complex world. Whether you are getting ready to date for the first time or you’ve been dating…

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Can love be as instant as coffee?

Last week, as I relaxed in northern Israel on a family vacation, it was impossible to ignore the stunning  scenery around me. Amid the serene beauty of Israel, with it’s Golan mountains, the Kinneret, and clear, unpolluted air, it was a most appropriate place to reflect on the role of beauty in shidduchim. I want…

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Age Issues

There’s a joke that has gone around: When it comes to telling his age, he’s shy… About 10 years shy! One of the most common reasons a man or woman over the age of 35 reject a proposed match is due to age. And as they get older, they tend to be even more particular…

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