Decisions are hard to make. Have you ever stood in front of an open fridge filled with food and complained there was nothing to eat? And then you close the fridge and walk away without actually taking any food because you don’t know what you want to eat. Or even if you want to eat.…
DetailsDoes Age Matter in Dating? Perhaps you have heard of the holy Baal Shem Tov, the father of the Chassidus movement. Had his parents been living in our generation, the Baal Shem Tov may never have been born. His parents had a significant age gap and his elderly father passed away when the Baal Shem…
DetailsShidduch Lessons from 2 Arabs & a Jew This is a true story. More than 15 years ago, the outcome of an early parole hearing on three criminals in Israel received great publicity. And it has a serious lesson for both shadchanim and singles. On one day three hearings were held before the same parole…
DetailsDOES WEIGHT MATTER IN SHIDDUCHIM? (Note: This article is not addressing those who have specific biological, health, or genetic factors that may hinder or prevent weight loss, but rather the majority of people who are overweight because they choose not to adopt a healthier lifestyle.) Unfortunately, the number of people who need to shed some…
DetailsAs we inch closer to the end of Chanukah, there is still time to storm the gates of Heavens with your prayers. After you’ve lit the Chanukah licht, it is the perfect, holy time to add in extra prayers for yourself or someone you know who needs a shidduch. Someone recently shared her frustration with…
DetailsAs many of you know, I am not a fan of shidduch resumes. I believe the old system of matchmaking worked better, when each shadchan got to know the single they were setting up in a personal way, not based on a piece of paper. Hashem made your shidduch 40 days before you were born,…
DetailsDID YOU KNOW THAT HASHEM SENT COSMETICS TO THE WOMEN IN THE MIDBAR? AND EZRA HASOFER REQUIRED IT TO BE SOLD IN VILLAGES SO WOMEN COULD BEAUTIFY THEMSELVES? READ ON TO LEARN MORE! Yes, this really happened this week. A divorced man in his 50s told me he needs to marry someone 10 years younger…
DetailsToday we don’t have the shidduch crisis of women in the time of Esther Hamalka who, once called to the palace of Achashveirosh, could not marry anyone else, leaving Jewish men without potential wives. Nor do we have the crisis of the Cantonists, the Jewish boys called up to the Russian army who served 25…
DetailsWhen we mention the FOUR QUESTIONS in any Jewish context, most assume it has to do with Pesach’s Mah Nishtana. But the FOUR SHIDDUCH QUESTIONS are applicable for the entire year. One of the most frequently asked questions of me, by parents and singles alike, is “What should I be asking when I’m checking someone…
DetailsBefore you were born, Hashem picked out your bashert. Before you went to this seminary or that yeshiva. Before you wore glasses or had a stutter. Before you grew too tall or not tall enough. Before you gained weight or had learning difficulties. Before your parents divorced or you got that useless college degree. Before…
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